The Dos and Don’ts of Building Intimacy with a New Partner

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Building intimacy with a new partner is something that many people struggle with. It can be difficult to know where to start and what to avoid. That’s why I’ve put together this list of the dos and don’ts of building intimacy with a new partner.

Dos:

1. Communicate openly: The foundation of every healthy relationship is open communication. It’s important to be honest and transparent with your new partner about your feelings, needs, and desires.

2. Create a safe environment: Before diving into deep conversations or intimate moments, make sure your partner feels comfortable and safe. This includes creating a safe physical space as well as an emotional one.

3. Take it slow: Building intimacy takes time. Don’t rush things and don’t expect your partner to do the same. Take things slow and enjoy the journey.

4. Be present: When spending time with your partner, be present in the moment. Put your phone away and give them your undivided attention. It’s important to show your partner that you value and respect their time.

5. Show affection: Physical touch is an important part of building intimacy. Show your partner affection through hugs, kisses, and holding hands.

Don’ts:

1. Pressure your partner: Pushing your partner too hard to open up or be intimate can make them feel uncomfortable or cause them to pull away. Respect their boundaries and let them open up at their own pace.

2. Compare them to your ex: Bringing up past relationships or comparing your partner to an ex can make them feel insecure or inadequate. Focus on building a new relationship with your new partner.

3. Dismiss their feelings: It’s important to acknowledge and validate your partner’s feelings, even if you don’t always agree with them. Dismissing or ignoring their feelings can damage the relationship.

4. Make assumptions: Assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. Always communicate and ask questions to make sure you are on the same page.

5. Take intimacy for granted: Intimacy requires effort and investment. Don’t take your partner for granted and make sure to put in the time and energy to build a strong, intimate relationship.

In conclusion, building intimacy with a new partner requires patience, communication, and effort. By following the dos and avoiding the don’ts, you can create a healthy, intimate, and long-lasting relationship with your new partner.